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Winning with Emotion
Dr Izzy Justice discusses strengthening relationships by building on your emotional quotient

published 6 February 2009


Dr Izzy Justice
Photo courtesy of : Dr Justice

HRM : Emotional Intelligence (EQ) has gained greater visibility over the years. In a recent article you wrote, Emotional Intelligence : A Valued Skill Set, you mentioned that at the high levels of leadership, EQ accounts for as much as 80% of success. What instances have you come across that led you to this conclusion and why do you believe this to be true?

Dr Justice : I have been an executive coach for senior level executives in major companies for a very long time and both my own anecdotal evidence as well that as my scientifically-validated research suggests that at top levels of management and leadership, it’s not “what” you know but “how” you can make things happen with what you know.



Issue 05 | January 2009
Winning with Emotion
Strengthening Relationships by Building on Your EQ
 

 

Before EQmentor, Izzy worked with Strategy, Performance, M&A with Andersen Consulting and Deloitte and was also a Partner with the consulting group of Cerner Corporation. He brings over 20 years of experience working with dozens of companies worldwide providing them with consulting services during major transitions, cultural changes and strategic planning.

He is a sought-after advisor to Boards and Executive Teams and has been an executive coach for several Fortune 100 senior executives.

He achieved the distinction of Master Facilitator and has facilitated dozens of executive retreats and challenging negotiations. He is a Certified Six Sigma Master Black Belt which distinguishes him as one of the very few in the country with that level of expertise.

He has published three books on management and leadership, and speaks globally on the challenges of human capital management.

He is a graduate of Davidson College, has an MBA from Queens University and a Doctorate on Emotional Intelligence.

 

 

 





The reason EQ is so powerful and can override good skills and judgment is that we are inherently designed to be self-preservationists. When someone throws something at you, you instinctively raise your hand to block it … without thinking about it … in an effort to protect yourself physically. The same is true of all the other dimensions that we protect especially in the workplace – we protect our egos, our titles, our relationships, the status quo … and anytime these get threatened (much the same as when someone is throwing something at you), then we instinctively respond in the classical Freudian mode of fight or flight.

HRM : Why do you think that most corporate training programmes tend to focus on the hard skills and the technical training, preferring to leave what some would label the softer stuff, to the wayside as unimportant?

Dr Justice : Many training programmes focus on hard skills and technical training because they are important for doing one’s job correctly. They are the essentials of the job function. After employees have established a baseline level of these skills, anyone can do the job – but only those with a high level of EQ can do the job well.

There is also a fundamental flaw in adult learning models – they tend to be event-based testing memory more than anything else. I recently was with a client who during our talk regarding this subject, turned around and opened a cabinet where he had kept all the materials from all the workshops and seminars (events) that he had been to, over the years. He randomly pulled out one folder and begun to read it. He paused and said, "I could have used this last week.”

The problem was not with the content, or the instructor or the learner or the mode – the problem is that from the time something is learned to the time it is applied (which is inherently based on some business need) is unpredictable – and the longer the time, the less relevant the knowledge irrespective of how good the knowledge or instructor or learner or mode is. Training programmes fail first and foremost because they rely on a memory-based model which does not match with how working adults function. Think about it – if you’re at home and you decide to paint a room, then at that point, you go to the store, get the paint and materials and paint the room. The need and point of applications are instant. Yet at work, a place that supposedly pays us to be efficient, teaches us something at one point and expects us to remember whenever it may be needed.

HRM : Could it be related to the fact that EQ is subjective and the measures and success factors are that much harder to assess and train on?

Dr Justice : Not necessarily. Though EQ is subjective, reliable and valid measures of emotionally intelligent behavioral patterns do exist in the form of self-assessments and even 360-feedback. The difficult part is that EQ is learned over time. A company may realise the importance of EQ and want to build those skills in their workforce, but then they send their associates to a 2-day workshop (the event!). They learn a few techniques, perhaps, but by the time they need to apply their new skills – they cannot make the connection because they have not developed new habits – a flaw of the memory based models mostly being used in academia and professional development.

HRM : What do you see as the primary components of EQ? Could you elaborate on it?

Dr Justice : At the highest level, EQ can be broken down into intrapersonal emotional intelligence and interpersonal emotional intelligence. Intrapersonal emotional intelligence refers to your ability to relate to yourself while interpersonal emotional intelligence refers to your ability to relate to others. Broken down further, managing your intrapersonal EQ effectively involves the skills of self-awareness, self-regulation, and motivation; relating to others involves the skills of empathy and social skills.

In terms of increasing your EQ, the first step is always self-awareness. If you do not know your strengths and weaknesses, you cannot set goals to improve yourself or your personal processes for getting things done. The second component that has a substantial impact on your EQ is self-regulation – controlling your reactions when your emotions have overwhelmed your rational thought process. This affects everything – from the way you regulate your stress reactions versus putting unnecessary stress on yourself to whether you deal with others’ negative energy constructively or destructively. The ability to keep yourself thinking positive thoughts impacts whether you feel you are in control. Nothing thwarts your motivation level as much as when you do not feel you are in control of your destiny.

When relating to others, empathy is quite important. The desire and ability to listen and understand where someone is coming from, interpret their nonverbal cues, show sensitivity, avoid judgment – and then respond appropriately -- builds the relationship. In many cases, the component of social skills is the epitome of emotional intelligence; great social skills are what you think of when someone has a high EQ. However, all the other skills of EQ work together to contribute to your social skills. The effect of the five components is synergistic; a high level of one is great, but excellence in all five has the most impact.

HRM : Where do the see that the impact of EQ is most greatly felt in the workplace?

Dr Justice : In times of change, stress, and conflict. When difficulties arise, there are several paths that one can take – and this is where those with high EQ are able to differentiate themselves and excel. Consider a leader who needs to make a difficult decision. When the outcome is challenged by a peer, his automatic thought may be “I have thought this through, I trust my judgment, and I know this is what I need to do – but that was a fair suggestion and I am glad it was brought to my attention” or, “This is none of her concern, I am in charge of this project and she is disrespecting my authority by questioning me.”

The truth is, events do not cause reactions. An automatic, subconscious interpretation of the event is the immediate precursor to an emotion and THEN one visibly reacts. In a stressful situation, there is a physiological change in your body because of the power of your emotions. The thalamus sends a signal to both the amygdala (emotional part) and the neocortex (rational part) within the brain. The signal to the amygdala, however, travels much faster than the signal to the neocortex, activating a ‘fight-or-flight’ emotional response before the neocortex has an opportunity to analytically process the situation. In essence, the rational mind is taken over by the emotional. While this once served an evolutionary purpose to trigger survival instincts, today this dis-regulation of emotion usually causes adverse effects. Managing this process is the key to a situation-appropriate reaction.

In the example given above, the resulting conversation between the two co-workers, as well as the trust and ability to collaborate in the future will undoubtedly be more productive when the leader’s thoughts resemble the former rather than the latter statement.

HRM : If there was one thing that we could do to immediately take cognisance of the impact of EQ, what would this be?

Dr Justice : We are first and foremost inherently emotional creatures. Stimuli causes first emotions to be exhibited BEFORE behaviors and competencies – yet most of us do not even know that there are only 7 basic emotions and they have not changed in over 8000 years. The person who can relate emotionally to others will be by far the most successful person in any organisation. Imagine how successful you could be if you could emotionally manage everything that happens to you. While that is not the reality, every single person does have the ability to control their reactions to events. You can let adverse events overwhelm you and bring you down or you can keep a clear head, view it as a challenge, and focus on solving the problem. Just keep in mind that your emotions are determined by what you think and by what you have experienced before. By learning from your experiences, you can increase your EQ.

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Editor's Note : This is particularly interesting to those of us involved in training and learning & development. While we can agree that there is a gap between the goals and mode of training we use versus how its being applied, the test lies in our ability to transcend this gap. What do you say to the idea that unless there is an almost immediate application of the principles learnt, the less likely the principles will be applied? I certainly have found that you need to start using something, putting it in action for it to be real to you. It makes the learning that much more tangible and the results you see keep you on track. Positive results further solidify your approach.

Dr. Izzy Justice, CEO and Founder of EQmentor, Inc.,is considered a thought leader in the space of Emotional Intelligence and professional development.

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